Self-Love: Who said short hair isn’t sexy?

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Short hair is always a debate that has no right or wrong answers. Grant it, short hair is not for everybody, but what you do with your hair is ultimately your decision. As a woman with short hair, the experience is always an adventure. Men either love it or hate it. I asked a few of my guy friends their opinions of short hair and the feedback was mixed, but very honest.

Brandon P., 34, ,Business Owner, Los Angeles, CA

Urbn Rebel: Do you date women who have short haircuts similar to male haircuts?

Brandon: I sure dooooo!!!!! I don’t mind it at all.

Urbn Rebel: Do you like short hair and/or long hair? Why? Why not? What is your preference?

Brandon: I have no preference of the two. A Queen Goddess will come with all sorts of angles of beauty. I’ve seen perfect beauty with short hair and with long hair. To say that I have a preference puts me in a box that I don’t wanna be in and will set me up to miss something if I’m only focusing on having just one preference.

Urbn Rebel: How would you react if your lady, who had really long hair, came home with a typical male haircut?

Brandon: I would be heated if she did that…only if it didn’t look better than when it was long. So now I gotta be all fake and act like I like it to preserve her feelings…. As opposed to her consulting with me first and we speak about it… this way “WE” would both be prepared of whatever comes from it and woulda been able to understand and value each other’s view points. It’s not mandatory that she woulda done that, but it woulda shown some extended courtesy from her end… which always goes a long way.

Urbn Rebel: Do you like natural hair? By natural, I mean, growing out of her head in its natural state. Not straightened nor hair added.

Brandon: I love natural hair and I love all the fresh ass dope looks too! However, natural does not always convert to attractive. I experienced some of the Queens harp about men not wanting their women to wear weaves anymore, but when they go natural they don’t get the response that they were hoping to get. Just because you go natural doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care about fashioning it and making it look attractive. Some of us just can’t wake up and not do anything to ourselves and expect super fresh results and compliments. Some can, but some can’t. I’ve seen some f*cked up a** natural looks before, we all have. (laughing)

Urbn Rebel: Would you approach a woman with short hair even if you don’t care for short hair? Why? Why not?

Brandon: Oh yes I would! Women with short hair for some reason create an optical illusion to me (I think) and it makes them look more curvy…. And I looooooovvvvvveeee them curves!

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Short hair is liberating

It doesn’t matter what we went through to get here. Whether it was a bad break up, an illness, too much tension from weaves and braids, an allergic reaction, LIFE! Some of us are tied to our hair and just want the freedom that comes along with short hair.

Not everyone takes a fancy to short hair, and that’s ok.

Here are a couple of nay sayers who bring the hateration and holleration to our short hair dancerie:

Dee, 35, New York,NY

Dee: I do not date women who have short hair.

Urbn Rebel: Why not?

Dee: I like long hair. Long hair is my preference because there’s something sensual and connecting about playing in her hair while we cuddle and enjoy each other’s presence. It also brings out her femininity in my opinion.

Urbn Rebel: How would you react if your lady, who had really long hair, came home with a typical male haircut?

Dee: Well, we would already have had the conversation about my preferences. So unless it’s medically related or she shaved it off for a cause that we both agreed on, we probably wouldn’t be together anymore.

Urbn Rebel: Do you like natural hair?

Dee: I love natural hair. I don’t hate wigs and/or weaves, but her own hair is my preference.

Urbn Rebel: Would you approach a woman with short hair even if you don’t care for short hair?

Dee: For dating, no. To make friends with or become acquaintances, yes.


 

Ty, 47, Handbag Designer, Los Angeles, CA

Urbn Rebel: Do you date women who have typical male haircuts?

Ty: Depends on how attractive she is.

Urbn Rebel: Do you like short hair or long hair?

Ty: Partial to long hair. Long hair is more feminine. Since I was a little boy, I always thought it symbolizes beauty. Long hair is my preference.

Urbn Rebel: How would you react if your lady, who had really long hair, came home with a typical male haircut?

Ty: I would not be happy because if she knows I like long hair then I would feel disrespected.

Urbn Rebel: Disrespected? How?

Ty: If we didn’t discuss it, then I feel like she doesn’t care about my opinion.

Urbn Rebel: Would you approach a woman with short hair even though long hair is your preference?

Ty: It depends on how short. Is it Halle Berry short or bald like Mr. Clean? I think it’s too manly. I think, personally, most men would prefer long hair.

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Short hair is sexy at any age, any size and on any shape.

Happiness comes from within. If short hair makes you happy then DO YOU BOO! People can help boost your confidence and pump you up, but that confidence is yours. Own it. Be committed to it.

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No one can take your beauty away.

How you present yourself shows how much you love yourself. Love your beauty and others will love it too.

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It’s not about what others think.

If a person really cares about you, he or she will support your decision. Your beau might even be the one to help you with your cut.

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Shannon, 36, Los Angeles, CA “I think women with short hair are sexy and bold.”

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Ryan, 46, Los Angeles, CA “Short hair, long hair, no hair is all good as long as the scalp is healthy.”

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Short hair adds character.

With short hair, you can showcase your features and play up your personal style.

“I would approach a girl with short hair if I think she’s pretty and has some type of style or energy I can vibe with.” -William, 32, Educator, Los Angeles by way of New Jersey.

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Short hair is fly.

Short hair always adds a little something to your overall look. That je ne sais quoi. It’s like that secret ingredient.

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Short hair is low maintenance.

Before you say anything, it does not mean NO maintenance. When you make the decision to cut your hair you do have to upkeep it. Now is the time to become BFFs with your barber. Also, get a set of clippers for when you can’t make it to the shop, and keep your scalp clean and moisturized.

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You should always be your #1 fan.

So if you’re thinking about doing the big chop, do it for you. Be fearless.

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Urbn Rebel for Iyami Naturals

 

 

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